Know why you choose to undergo abuse

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Why do you allow yourself to be pulled into someone else's negativity?
Into someone else's storm?

Why do you put up with someone abusing you - whether it's physical, mental, financial or whatever?



When you think about it, you may come up with so many different reasons:
'I love this person', 'this is my fate or my lot in life', or even 'if I leave this person, I will be alone and lonely and I won't be able to live in this world'.  Or strangely, it could even be an insecurity or fear that if you are no longer in the abusive situation, you really don't know what you will experience - and this fear of the unknown keeps you where you are - in a comfort zone, even if what you are feeling is pain.

You don't need to be in this painful situation, taking on other's negative energies and feeling unhappy.  You deserve so much better, you deserve love in your life, to be loved, to be in a loving relationship or if you are alone, then to reconnect with yourself and find that you have everything you need within yourself.

The abuse can stem from the other person's insecurities, whatever that may be.  You don't need to take it as your own.

Be honest with yourself.  Think about why you choose to undergo the abusive situation.  And when you have the answers and you still choose to be in the situation, then accept that as where you choose to be.  But then don't complain about it and try and suck in others into your unhappiness, that is not being fair to the other you call your friend.  But if you are honest with yourself and choose not to be in that situation any longer, then leave it behind in faith that whatever comes after is definitely for the better, even if you have to be alone for a while.  You will have your peace of mind and can start moving into a more positive time.

If this touches a chord for someone somewhere and you find yourself choosing to move into love, then know that you will be bringing joy to those who see your suffering and want love for you.

The situations I am thinking of are the ones where someone is subjected to suffering and not the trivial things that can irritate you where you have to look past the imperfections as you will in most cases never have the perfect partner.  There will be something that you don't like, the same way as  there will be something in you your partner may not like.  And when Love is the main ingredient in the relationship, you are able to let go of the silly and trivial things.

Have a blessed day
In Love and Light